Hmmm, I just finished reading TN and I'm not sure what to make of it. The book itself was interesting and easy to follow. I like his style of writing. However, the story line was kind of sad.
I guess life is never perfect. I know there have been many a night when I've dreamt of living a life of travel and leisure and how wonderful it all might be. You could rent a house on the Riviera, wake up at noon and have breakfast as you sunbathe. Later you could go shopping, go to a cafe, read a book. Then attend a fancy ball and dance the night away.
However, it would be odd not to have my life structured. I don't know how I'd handle it. To have everything handed to me with no real sense of purpose or no goals to achieve, would it be that easy? In a sense, reading about the style of life Dick and Nicole Diver led didn't make me envious. I almost felt kind of bad about their situation. They have everything they could want at their fingertips, but somehow can't seem to find real happiness.
Nicole was born into this incredible life, but had to deal with some not so ideal events early on. It was believed that being molested by her dad at a young age led to her mental problems. That's got to be one of the WORST hands to be dealt! You really don't have any idea how that could impact the rest of your life. How do you pick up the pieces, though? Years of therapy? Taking it one day at a time? I have no clue!
Then there's the flip side, what do you do when it is one of your loved ones that has to go through this? You would think a renowned psychiatrist would know best, wouldn't you? But in these types of situations I think love and patience goes hand in hand with drugs and therapy. I don't think one can work without the other.
In a sense I don't think there was enough love and patience between Dick and Nicole to get through it. It was probably draining for both parties and the resentment grew. There was a lot of blame involved, I think. Dick felt Nicole and her family's money ruined him while Nicole became annoyed by Dick and his inability to adapt to her way of life.
In the end, yes, your wife/husband plays a big role in the person you ultimately become, but it is YOU who has the final say. YOU are responsible for the person you are and the person you want to become.